I will Not “Chill Out”! And you CANNOT touch my belly!!

I just read an article written by Sarah Naomi Clark and shared on jennifermargulis.net titled “Go Ahead, Touch My Belly! 3 Reasons Why Pregnant Women Should Stop Complaining About Belly Touchers” and I was left with my jaw on the floor.

What this article did was give excuses why unsolicited touching of a woman’s body should be celebrated simply because ‘pregnancy belly’. That pregnant women need to “CHILL OUT” when someone touches her and that we shouldn’t complain.

No. Just no.
NO! NO! NO!!!

Sarah, You will not turn pregnant women into petting zoo exhibits. You will not give reasons why we should toss aside our privacy and our bodily autonomy simply because my belly is thriving with human life. ITS STILL MY BODY!!

Still dont get it? Let me do a quick visual for you. 322182_2045987505135_1796609495_o

Lets talk about the word “Permission”. Because no where in your write up did you mention it. Permission is defined as the “authorization granted to do something; formal consent: to ask permission to leave the room. 2. the act of permitting.”

When you tell women to “CHILL OUT” and let strangers or even family touch them, you are telling them that another persons inability to comprehend the word ‘permission’, overrides a mothers rights to not have her belly pawed by these strangers. Where did manners go now days? Boobs make men happy, they unite women who breastfeed, should we “chill out” when people walk up to us and touch? NO! You’d probably get smacked in the face if you did that to someone without permission!!!

And you are also forgetting the thousands of sexual abuse survivors (like myself) who have been working overtime to get our bodies back from being a petting zoo exhibit from someone else who didnt understand the word ‘permission’. Thats my biggest complaint! WE OWN OUR BODIES AND IF WE WANT TO COMPLAIN ABOUT PEOPLE TOUCHING THEM FOR WHATEVER REASON, WE WILL!! You dont get to tell us what we should and should not deem as acceptable behaviors from others. You didnt even take us into consideration before writing your insulting post!

I dont really care if “Not that many people touch the belly”. I hated being touched. Touch made me squirm like I was bathing in a pool of maggots.
I dont really care it “People are EXCITED about your baby”. They can be excited and not put their hands on my belly. Or at least until they ask permission.
I dont really care if “the joy of a new life united humanity”. So does the joy of having the rights to tell people when they can and cannot feel that life inside me through belly touches.

“How can we be irritated when people love that you are pregnant and want to touch your growing belly to acknowledge this miraculous cycle of life?” Im not irritated at being loved when Im pregnant and people wanting to acknowledge the cycle of life. Im irritated that people cannot respect my space and rights to be asked before they touch me.

You close your blog off with “Go ahead, touch my belly!” giving permission to the world to go ahead and fondle your beautiful pregnant belly. Go you! Thats what YOU are comfortable with.

I close my blog off with…

If you see me on the streets, and you want to touch my belly, ASK FIRST. If I say yes, Go ahead, touch my belly! But if you walk up to me and start to grope my stomach without asking, I will probably scream ‘STRANGER DANGER’ and embarrass the shit out of you!!


I cant even come up with a good title for this blog.
How does one think of a title for a story that breaks my heart every time I think back on events that have lead me up to even writing this?

Before I even begin, I want to say something about this blog. This is MY story. This is MY SONS story. This isn’t ME bashing or telling anyone else they are wrong for the choices they have made for their own children. We each come to a crossroads in our lives when the truth catches up with us. It took 10 years for me. It may take more or less for others. The goal is to EDUCATE and not hate. To share our stories with one another so that we can open ourselves up and see that we are not alone. That our ways of thinking can be changed with the wave of new information that comes before us. That we can do better for our children. Our awakenings are important. To us as parents and to our children who we try to do right by.

If by chance you find the topic of infant circumcision makes you want to burst out in anger because you don’t agree with me and what I say here, don’t read my blog. Don’t reply to this blog. Move on with your day and I wish you well. Its that simple.

Ill continue now. Please be respectful of my requests here and I will be respectful of you.

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A Fully Informed Choice… Part 3

**Part 1 can be found here and Part 2 can be found here**

Along with vaccination injections, there are immune globulin (made from the plasma of volunteers) and anti-toxin injections. They are available for many of the diseases for which vaccines have been produced (e.g. Rubella, RSV, hepatitis B, tetanus, diphtheria, measles, varicella etc.). Such injections can be given either prophylactically (pre-exposure) or therapeutically (post-exposure).

This medical aid can be given irrespective of vaccination status. We have antibiotics readily available to our population that while over-prescribed and over-used – for example, given for viral infections when they are able to treat bacterial infections only – can also be lifesaving when needed. While medical advances such as these may not always be effective, they are readily available along with other treatments such as hospitalization if necessary (e.g. for breathing support, IV fluids etc.). The treatments we have available to us in hospitals now makes severe adverse events from disease far less common, and occurs mainly in those with predisposing health conditions or weakened immune systems.

Interestingly, there is medical literature which suggests that vaccinated populations are not only at greater risk of health issues (such as recurrent infections, allergies and autoimmune conditions) but also that some vaccinated populations suffer greater levels of complications from disease when they contract it after receiving (or develop it from) vaccination. This is not the expected outcome if vaccination were protecting the at risk populations from severity of disease. This literature is freely available, but not made public knowledge. The idea that vaccination rates must remain high for community protection (termed ‘herd immunity’) seems sound in logic. But there are major flaws to this belief. Firstly, the general population at any one time is not up to date with vaccinations to the number we are told is necessary for protection. This concept of herd immunity began when observing herds of cattle. But it was to do with naturally acquired disease, for which lifelong immunity is expected.

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A Fully Informed Choice… Part 2

**Part 1 can be found here**
*Immunisation (AU)

Of course some diseases such as pertussis (whooping cough) are very dangerous to very young infants. This reiterates the importance of breast milk. There is plenty of medical literature which shows breast milk does in fact protect against common childhood diseases, including pertussis, chicken pox, measles etc. There has been a great deal of debate over the role of breast milk, and the evidence shows that it does in fact offer great levels of protection against childhood diseases – to such an extent that some study findings have suggested temporarily delaying mothers’ breastfeeding in order to allow vaccinations to be recognized by her infant’s body. Breast milk is so protective that vaccinating breastfed infants is far less effective at raising antibody titers than vaccinating artificially fed infants. Breast milk protects infants from both naturally occurring disease, and the disease injected via vaccination. Breast milk teaches the infant what is safe and what is not safe, and does so without causing inflammation. This is important – the very action of protecting an infant from disease through breast milk is done so without causing inflammation.

Newborns are not designed to produce inflammatory antibodies. The myelin sheath protects nerve impulses within the brain and spinal cord. This sheath does not develop into its mature pattern until a child is 2 years old. Permanent neurological (and other) damage can, and does, occur as a result of inflammation – particularly within the first 2 years of life (as the WHO supports). Inflammation can certainly result from contracting disease, but with the protection of breast milk this is not a likely outcome.

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A Fully Informed Choice… Part 1

This write up was submitted to me by a mother who wishes to remain anonymous. This will be spread out over a series of posts because this mama did her homework and let me tell you, there is A LOT of information that she has shared with us!!! Please find the time to read through the series. I will post a new series every day.

As to not overwhelm you, take breaks.

Grab a cup of tea.

Part 1:

There are many reasons why we have ultimately chosen not to vaccinate our children. Initially we had every intention of vaccinating our kids, this despite the fact that I have been told that the final dose of Gardasil will be potentially fatal. (I had two of the three scheduled injections, with anaphylactic reactions). We decided to limit side effects by splitting the vaccinations, but had every intention of going ahead – we actually didn’t know there was an option! When we found out that we did not have to vaccinate, we thought anyone who didn’t must be crazy. After all, why would you refuse such wonderful medical advances that protect your children, leaving them at risk of preventable childhood diseases?? That to us seemed almost negligent as a parent. Then we became informed, and what we have learnt deeply saddens us. We have researched for several years, and as such have a lot of medical literature which shows clearly the dangers of – and often times ineffectiveness of – vaccinating with the current childhood schedule.

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